Finding your local community: We’re big champions of getting out into the local kink community. It’s not always possible for everyone, and sometimes the local community isn’t the right fit. But if you haven’t tried it yet, it’s definitely worth thinking about. You meet more people. You learn new things. And you spend time with people who understand you on a level you might not be used to.
Today, think about whether you think you’ll find a munch, a club, or a party. Have you done it in the past? What was your experience? Are you nervous or shy? Explore your feelings and consider whether the local community is a viable option for you.
I’m already part of the LovingBDSM community and attend their monthly, virtual munches ($7.99 for the “Kinky Fuckery” level of paid membership). As I’ve said before, I’m hoping to eventually find an in-person munch, a club, and a party. Fetlife has been a great resource for me, but unfortunately my schedule this summer didn’t allow for me to attend any of the munches, clubs or parties in my area. Now that I’m back at college in Boston, I hope to go to one munch that I’ve had my eye on even when I was at home in New York. I also want to go to clubs, parties, and classes while in Boston, so if anyone has any suggestions, feel free to leave them below.