Being D/s and Being Parents: There’s still a pervasive myth out there that if you have kids you’re not allowed to be kinky or that it’s impossible. Of course you’re allowed to be kinky and as parents ourselves, we can promise it’s definitely possible. Just like anything with parenting, you’ve got to learn to be very quiet and extremely creative.
If you’re a parent, today is a day to think about how you make your D/s work (or how you can make it work) while raising kids. And if you’re not a parent yet, imagine how you might handle things if you have children.Loving BDSM
So, despite having a huge impregnation fantasy, I’m not actually sure I want to have kids. If I ever do and am in a D/s relationship, I would keep the D/s relationship 24/7, but much subtler than it had been behind closed doors. The way it would be represented to my kid(s) would be the same to how it’s represented to the outside, vanilla world. Mr. Gallant and Ena’s relationship in the Brie series is a good model:
“We keep to an informal protocol in our home. What looks informal to the outsider is actually formal between the two of us. We have transformed everyday phrases, titles and actions to have personal significance to us.”“Dinner with Gallant,” Brie’s Submission (4-6) by Red Phoenix
Kayla Lords and John Brownstone of LovingBDSM also seem to have a good system going. I would try to emulate those two examples should I ever find myself becoming a mother.