Exploring your kinks together: D/s is a power exchange relationship. It’s a kink, but it’s not all the kinks out there. In your D/s relationship, in order to keep it healthy and vibrant, you’ve both got to grow – together. Part of this might be in exploring your kinks together.
Today, if you’re in a relationship, it may be time to talk about kinks you’d both like to try but haven’t yet. Find what aligns or what you both find interesting and start exploring. If you’re single, make a list of the kinky things you’d like to try with a partner.
When I started becoming interested in BDSM and reading an increasing number of BDSM-flavored romance novels, I was also keeping a mental tally of what turned me on and what was never going to happen. That being said, I’m still exploring my kinks. If you have any resources (e.g. a glossary of kinks or a checklist) please tell me. I’m always looking for new information.
For couples, LovingBDSM has recommended Simpatic, a service where for $40, a couple makes an account and individually fills out a questionnaire then receives a report on where there are shared or complementary kinks. I hope to eventually do this with my Dom to get a more thorough understanding of our shared interests, but early on we realized we already shared quite a few.