Category: My Life

30 Days of D/s: Day 27

Being D/s and Being Parents: There’s still a pervasive myth out there that if you have kids you’re not allowed to be kinky or that it’s impossible. Of course you’re allowed to be kinky and as parents ourselves, we can promise it’s definitely possible. Just like anything with parenting, you’ve got to learn to be […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 26

Figuring out your tasks and rituals: Much like rules and other negotiated parts of your D/s relationship, you may want to incorporate tasks and rituals. Rules dictate behavior: behave this way, don’t do that, always do this. Tasks and rituals are often things you do for your partner or as a way to bring yourself […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 25

Is 24/7 D/s right for you? Not every D/s relationship is meant to be a 24/7 relationship. Some people don’t want that level of responsibility (Dom or sub). For others, it just won’t fit in with their life. If you think you want it now or you might want it some day, today is the […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 24

When a D/s relationship ends: We sincerely hope that whatever good, healthy D/s relationship you find yourself in never ends or doesn’t end on bad terms. But the reality is that, for at least some people, they’re going to experience a D/s break-up at some point. For submissives, it can be particularly hard as you’ve […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 23

Drop is real: What goes up must come down. Subspace is the most common of the highs in D/s, but we know from experience that Dom or top space is real too. Which means sub and dom drop are real possibilities after you have intense kinky moments together. Drop won’t happen every time, and it […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 22

Not everyone will go to space: Subspace or top/dom space isn’t a guarantee every time you get kinky or in every D/s relationship. The feeling comes from the endorphins, dopamine, and other feel good chemicals our brain produces in a really intense scene. Submissives report feeling floaty while many Dominants say it gives them hyper […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 21

Have you heard of subfrenzy? You might have never heard of subfrenzy and still experienced it whether as the submissive or a Dominant. It’s a moment that happens for new submissives or submissives in new relationships where they get a little intense about their submission, sometimes to the detriment of their own safety. It can […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 20

Sexual availability: In some D/s relationships (including ours), there is an agreement that the submissive will always be sexually available to their Dominant. While this can be a kinky, sexy aspect of a relationship, it always requires a great deal of trust from the submissive and responsibility from the Dominant. What do you think? Does […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 19

What do you think about orgasm control? Orgasm control encompasses a lot of different play. Begging for permission, denial, edging, forced orgasms, and even coming on command – there’s a lot there. Some people (like us) say, “We want it all!” And others only like certain parts of orgasm control. If you don’t like the […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 18

Sex isn’t required for D/s: Did we blow your mind with this one? No, sexual activity (kinky or otherwise) isn’t required for a D/s relationship. Dominance and submission is about a power exchange, of receiving or giving up control. Sex is an added bonus. Sex is fun. Sex is not required. You may find, in […]

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