All in the Family

Rose was ecstatic to be in New Orleans for her 21st birthday. Nothing like hitting Bourbon Street for your first legal drinking night. As her brother drove, searching for a place to park, her two cousins in the backseat were reminding her of the rules. “Drink water in between drinks.” “Don’t forget to eat.” “Don’t […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 11

What does consent mean to you? Most of us think of consent as a “Yes” or a “No” when it comes to sex. But really, whether in a vanilla or kinky relationship, there’s more to consent than that. Plus, some D/s relationships play with consensual non-consent. Some relationships have a rule that as long as […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 10

What is your safeword? Safewords are the words or phrases we use in a kinky scene or while having sex to stop everything. Some people don’t want a safeword. Here at Loving BDSM we strongly suggest them when you’re in a new relationship or trying a new kink, but they’re not the only way to […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 9

Let’s talk limits: Everyone has limits. Some are hard limits – things you refuse to do, and some are soft – you might do them under the right circumstances, with the right person, or at least once to try it. But we all have them. Do you know what your hard limits are? Are there […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 8

Handling negative emotions: How do you handle negative emotions like anger, jealousy, and fear now? How do you expect that to be different in D/s?Loving BDSM I talk them out, or I channel them into my writing or listen to music to make me feel better. I expect the emotions to be more intense in […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 7

How do you communicate? What is your communication style? What happens when you try to communicate your thoughts or needs?Loving BDSM My current communication style is honest and is (mostly) respectful. Sometimes when I’m talking, however, I get caught up in what I’m feeling and words don’t come out the way I want them too. […]


7/29/17 I’m someone who is very thorough when it comes to research. It’s my Type A personality. I did spend 5 years researching and stewing before I got my first tattoo. And another 2 before my second one. With BDSM, I “jumped in” faster (I joined sites the same year I “discovered” BDSM), but I […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 6

How will you handle conflict in D/s? How do you handle conflict now? How do you imagine handling it in D/s? What do you think you’ll need to do differently in a D/s relationship?Loving BDSM I currently talk openly about the issue (but sometimes not until a day after when I’ve had time to cool […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 5

How do you feel about discipline and punishment? As a submissive, are you willing to allow a Dominant to discipline or punish you in your relationship? As a Dominant, are you willing to require discipline or give out punishment? What kinds of punishments can you imagine for bad behavior?Loving BDSM Oh, absolutely. I imagine spankings, […]

Class Is In Session

School didn’t start for another day, but Helena found herself waiting outside her advisor’s office on Labor Day. She wore her usual outfit of a plaid, pleated skirt and white blouse. Now, she wondered if she should have dressed more conservatively. She had always had a small crush on her advisor, and it seemed to […]

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