Tag: 30 Days of D/s

30 Days of D/s: Day 10

What is your safeword? Safewords are the words or phrases we use in a kinky scene or while having sex to stop everything. Some people don’t want a safeword. Here at Loving BDSM we strongly suggest them when you’re in a new relationship or trying a new kink, but they’re not the only way to […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 9

Let’s talk limits: Everyone has limits. Some are hard limits – things you refuse to do, and some are soft – you might do them under the right circumstances, with the right person, or at least once to try it. But we all have them. Do you know what your hard limits are? Are there […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 8

Handling negative emotions: How do you handle negative emotions like anger, jealousy, and fear now? How do you expect that to be different in D/s?Loving BDSM I talk them out, or I channel them into my writing or listen to music to make me feel better. I expect the emotions to be more intense in […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 7

How do you communicate? What is your communication style? What happens when you try to communicate your thoughts or needs?Loving BDSM My current communication style is honest and is (mostly) respectful. Sometimes when I’m talking, however, I get caught up in what I’m feeling and words don’t come out the way I want them too. […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 6

How will you handle conflict in D/s? How do you handle conflict now? How do you imagine handling it in D/s? What do you think you’ll need to do differently in a D/s relationship?Loving BDSM I currently talk openly about the issue (but sometimes not until a day after when I’ve had time to cool […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 5

How do you feel about discipline and punishment? As a submissive, are you willing to allow a Dominant to discipline or punish you in your relationship? As a Dominant, are you willing to require discipline or give out punishment? What kinds of punishments can you imagine for bad behavior?Loving BDSM Oh, absolutely. I imagine spankings, […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 4

Negotiation is a fancy word for talking about your D/s relationship: People read the word “negotiation” and imagine some sort of back and forth thing around a table in a formal way. It can be that, sure, but mostly it’s just the conversation you have to figure out what kind of D/s relationship you want […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 3

What titles and labels do you prefer? Beyond the basic title of Dominant or submissive, are there other titles you prefer or are interested in exploring? Are there any that turn you off or don’t seem like a good fit for you? ​Some titles for Dominants may be Master, Sir, Daddy, Mistress, Lady, etc. Titles […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 2

What does submission mean to you? Does a submissive have certain behaviors? Do submissives do specific tasks? When you think of a submissive and submission, what thoughts come to mind?Loving BDSM Absolutely. The “certain behaviors” and “specific tasks” obviously depend on the submissive and Dominant’s relationship in question. When I think of a submissive and […]

30 Days of D/s: Day 1

I found these questions online on one of my favorite BDSM podcast (half-run by John Brownstone, aka the “Southern Sir” who wrote the 30 Days of submission questions), and figured I’d do these, too, since the first 30-day challenge worked so well for me. These questions are also much longer than the others, so buckle […]

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