Is your need to submit being met? If not, or if your situation changed, do you think that you could continue in your life and still be happy/content if you were never able to express your submission in the way that feels best to you again? What makes submission special to you?Southern Sir’s Place Not
Is pain or humiliation (spankings for example) a part of your submission? What is your relationship to it? Do you embrace it as a part of your submission, tolerate it as necessary or have some other type of relationship with it?Southern Sir’s Place Yes they are. I don’t love the idea of either, but spankings
Has your submission ever let you down? Have you ever been criticized for your submission? Have you ever regretted being or feeling submissive in a moment or in a relationship? Have you ever looked back and realized you made a mistake and how did you handle your submission going forward from that?Southern Sir’s Place Yes.
Do you have submissive desires or fantasies that you have yet to be able to explore? Do some of your desires confuse or frighten you? Do they excite you?Southern Sir’s Place I haven’t been able to explore any of them yet. Some frighten me (like rape play and choking), but they all excite me.
Are there items, objects or rituals that represent or help you express submission? If not, have you ever thought of adding or being gifted one? Is there a special significance to these objects or rituals?Southern Sir’s Place Items like sex toys and my journal, and rituals such as “good morning” and “good night” messages help
What are the emotions that most directly let you access submission? What feelings do they inspire?Southern Sir’s Place I would say all of my sexual feelings and pride at following instructions are the most direct emotional connections to my submission. When I’m feeling overwhelmed I also wish I could submit, so I guess that counts,
Is there anything about submission (yours or what you see in others) that you question, dislike or repels you? Was there a time you questioned or were resistant to your own submissive feelings?Southern Sir’s Place I was definitely resistant when I was younger. I had the idea that submission was weak and my feminist personality
Can you feel submissive without a dominant partner? If so, how does your submission express itself? If not, how do you handle your submission or submissive feelings?Southern Sir’s Place My life doesn’t exactly have room for me to feel submissive if I don’t have a partner to submit to. That being said, I still feel
Has your submission increased or decreased over time? Have you ever had to renegotiate your submission due to a change in your feelings or circumstance?Southern Sir’s Place Definitely increased as I’ve become more independent and examined my personality and needs. It became very strong when I went away to college for the first time, and